I can hear you say, “but I want to judge better!” Maybe you wish you had a stronger sense of discrimination and more clarity in thought and decisions? Ironical as it may sound, to improve judgement, we need to give up judgement! When you observe without attaching labels, you release yourself from your disarrayed mind and enter a higher dimension of reality. This is a platform beyond your own biases and prejudices. Often we err because we observe little but reason a lot. Instead if we observe more and reason little, it’s likely we’d reach the truth.
Observation practises are like bright sunlight, they help us remove the fog of confusions and drive forward safe and fast. As the 13th century Persian poet and Sufi mystic, Rumi said, “everyone sees the unseen in proportion to the clarity of their heart.”
Unfortunately when it comes to our lives, many of us aren’t honest scientists, we are deeply scripted to unshakable opinions of ourselves and of others. We think we know who we are and we are also convinced about our prejudices. But the sad truth is, somewhere, we’ve lost the connection to our own self and this world. American sociologist Charles Cooley spoke about our plight saying, “I am not what I think I am; I am not what you think I am; I am what I think you think I am.”
Get back control of your life
The first step to get a semblance of control back into our inner lives is to check our own assumptions, at least for some time in a day. We do that by first improving our awareness – ‘observe’ without ‘judging’.
I saw the man pacing ‘angrily’ and his ‘disinterested’ ‘wife’ but when I saw myself judging him as ‘angry’, I had successfully ‘observed’ myself.
Now, say, if you were that man striding back and forth in the aisle of the plane and imagine for a moment, you had some divine powers by which you could also stand away from yourself. Wouldn’t it then be an exciting experience to see your anger, restlessness and other emotions? Even occasionally, if we could ‘see’ ourselves, we’d immediately be able to bring our lives back on track.To be continued…